The five main characters who make you look ‘insecure, selfish and annoying’ – and everyone does it
- Singles are warned of five common turns to avoid
- Dating coach Louanne Ward, from Perth, outlined every point in a helpful video
- When dating, avoid asking for compliments and complaining about problems
- Both men and women can make unattractive “mistakes” in dating
Singles have been warned about five “common” behaviors that they immediately stop when dating.
Australian relationship coach Louanne Ward shared an insightful video on Instagram detailing every ‘unattractive’ habit — from hunting for compliments to complaining a lot.
“Whether you’re a woman or a man, these five things are pretty universal, unattractive, and a bit of a disconnect,” she said in the clip, “Dating Failure That Turns People Off.”
“What really happens when you do these things is that you seem insecure, selfish, and annoying.”
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Australian relationship coach Louanne Ward (pictured) has shared an insightful video detailing five major dating turn-offs.
When dating singles, you should never go “compliment hunting” or ask to validate themselves. Singles should never treat their date like a therapist nor should they complain
When dating, singles should never go “compliment hunting” or solicit other people’s validation of themselves.
Ms Ward said this “shows that you are insecure and want to be the center of attention” and that it is “unattractive” to anyone.
After that, she said it was “not good dating etiquette” to avoid answering questions and distract the question back to the other person.
Instead, be an open book and allow the conversation to flow by being willing to open up to the other person if you feel comfortable.
Mrs. Ward said you should not treat your companion like a therapist and avoid complaining about your problems.
Nobody wants to hear about all your problems. Sure, we all have a bad day from time to time, but if you spend the date talking about all the things going on in your life, no one hears how bad your life is.
Singles should also be gentle with themselves and not “put themselves” in front of a potential partner.
Mrs. Ward considered this to be the worst or “next level” compared to fishing for a compliment based on its effect on the other person.
She said: ‘Someone has to constantly pull you down – it’s stressful and not fun for the other person, it’s stopping dating.’
Five main courses in dates:
1. Find compliments or endorsements for yourself
2. Avoid answering questions and not be an “open book”
3. Use your history as a healer to complain about your problems
4. Underestimate yourself
5. If you keep interrupting someone else while they are speaking
Mrs. Ward said you should treat your companion like a therapist and avoid complaining about your problems. Nobody wants to hear about all your problems. Sure, we all have a bad day from time to time, but if you spend the date talking about all the things that happen in your life, no one hears how bad your life is,” she said (stored photo)
It is also considered a great turn off when someone continues to ‘interfere’ when someone is talking, trying to change the subject, or talking over someone.
In the comments to the video, Ms. Ward was praised for sharing helpful tips on social media.
Previously, she’s also said it’s “not sexy” when women say “I don’t need a man” or when men say bad things about an ex.
Men’s ‘non-sexual’ mistakes
1. Making fun of an ex or other woman
2. Constantly talk about yourself without asking questions
3. Make an appointment via text message
4. Telling women that it is easier for them than for men
5. No Equal Effort in Presentation
‘Non-sexual’ Mistakes Women Make
1. Take an hour to apply makeup for breakfast on Sunday
2. Saying “I don’t need a man”
3. Too much enthusiasm in texting often
4. Excessive sensitivity and crying as a strategy
5. Saying “You could be an axe-killer or a rapist, for all I know”
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